Individual and Relationship Therapy For Non-Monogamy & Polyamory

What Is Non-Monogamy?

Non-monogamy is an umbrella term for all sorts of relationships that don’t include sexual monogamy, such as polyamory, and swinging. We tend to talk describe it as ethical or consensual to distinguish it from non-consensual non-monogamy, which is a fancy name for infidelity or cheating on a partner.

The good news is that’s there’s no wrong way to be non-monogamous as long as you are as honest, open, and respectful as possible with your partner(s). However, it can be very difficult to navigate your first steps into non-monogamy, whether you’re partnered or not.

When To Seek Help

Ideally, as soon as you realise monogamy isn’t for you is the best time to get professional help. If you are in a relationship, you may be struggling with feelings of jealousy, envy, missing out, compersion, being selfish, or emotional overwhelm and general confusion. Both the ups and the downs of polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy can be very challenging.  

Even if you’re not new to non-monogamy or polyamory, there are unique challenges that arise that would really benefit the support of a poly-experienced therapist. This might include having children, getting married, or changes in accommodation or nesting arrangements. 

What To Expect

You can attend alone or with up to two partners from within your polycule, so a maximum of three people present in a session.

We usually start by clarifying what sort of relationships you want to be in and explore what is preventing that from happening. While investigating what love means to you and how you want to express it, we often work on family patterns, unspoken expectations, intimate boundaries, difficult conversations, and how to manage new relationship energy (NRE).